For married couples, having a baby brings in dry spell along with the overwhelming happiness (read never-ending responsibilities).Being mentally stressed out never prepares you enough for anything, not even for es-ee-ex.A busy day at work deprives your body of comfort, taking a long snore session is all you wish to do.Taking certain medications like anti-depressant can take a temporary dry spell on your libido.Getting poor sleep exhausts your system and makes you want to cancel the sleazy appointment and just be a lazy sloth.There can be a lot of reasons for not getting into it, this can be anything between physical stress, mental stress or loss of interest (Ouch!) Taking a back seat and not making the car dance is quite alright at times, and this happens in every relationship. Having it too less? The possible reasons behind the dry winds can be these! We understand, it’s gonna be awkward talking about the do’s and don’ts in bed but equal consent on actions and pleasure is the key for a healthy sex life. Now, that’s the ratio we are talking about, assuming that the later couple surely has some indifference. Not a tough thing to do, right?Īccording to studies, a couple who has it at least twice a week are happier and closely bonded with each other than the couple who barely have it 10 times a year. It is important to discuss with your partner about your needs and also to understand what they find pleasurable while at it. Of course, it all ultimately melts down on having a healthy sex life. Now when we know that physical intimacy is the best thing to happen to you and it comes with pleasurable benefits (I’m sure some would agree Pizza is the best to do it), does the question of “How often you should be having it?” arise in our mind? I can hear the unanimous ‘NO’ from all out there already. What’s normal to you may not be normal to your partner. Sex Therapist, Tammy Nelson says that there’s nothing called as “normal” when it comes to physical intimacy.
On the other hand, excess of it when you actually don’t feel like it or get laid only for the heck of it may only result in increasing stress of your body, that can refrain you from enjoying the moment and may also have leave you with some not-so-positive effects in your relationship. Remember that having sex is a way to rejuvenate your physical and mental health, come closer to your partner, accept each other emotionally and the byproduct always leads to a better relationship, better bonding, physical and mental connection and so on. The best way to indulge yourself into a pleasure sesh is when you’re really willing to do it. It’s necessary to remember that when you do it just for the heck of it, it can get mechanical and reflect poorly on your performance graph. There’s no rulebook that determines the number of times you should be laid with your partner to stay happy. It’s not a medication or a ritual that necessarily has to be performed. There’s not a possibility of putting a count on it, for some couples having it 7 days a week is satisfying while some have it just once a week and still be happy with each other. Start thinking about it and don’t hesitate to talk about it if that’s the need of the hour!Īccording to the sex therapists, there are no hard and fast rules on how often you should be having it. You neither want to be a ‘do-it-rarely laid back’ person nor a ‘lets-do-it everyday’ maniac, agreed? So, without much ado, let’s talk about the untold rules, the balance and the important factors that keep the crumpled-bed-affairs pleasing and never let any doubts bother you again!įirst thing first: Making love is a two-way road to Vegas, what’s comforting to you might just be the opposite to your partner. Well, you have to be sure to make it an enjoyable affair for your partner as well, but I’m sure it might have occured to you about the number of times that is considered to be ‘healthy’ or that doesn’t tag you as a ‘nymphomaniac’. How you do it is obviously important but it’s also important to know how often you should be doing it.
Right when you know you got everything that’s needed to be the best in making love, we want to you to stop and think over it.